Thursday 19 July 2012

20: Kids after cancer

Fiona here: This is a session I recorded with the guides over a year ago when I was hoping to start a family before I realised I had yet another recurrence, this time of widespread metastisis.It feels very strange to post something which is so out of sync with my current life but hopefully it will be of value to someone(s).
FIONA: I have been reading about a book by a young woman who went on to adopt and have a child after having had cancer. Can you comment on having kids after cancer? Will the treatment affect getting pregnant or an unborn child? What are the risks? GUIDES: This is a good question and the answer is equally applicable for a man or a woman. We know this interests you. There is a lot of fear around this subject. It is important to remember that the Dr.’s and nurses and researchers come at this with best interests. They are in their positions to save lives, to maintain lives, to restore health. So when they are unsure of something they will say that they are unsure, or they don’t know, or this hasn’t been measured, or, ”We have noticed that there may be a trait...” This is the truth yet if this was the same truth simply put in a different subject area such as, “We have noticed that the fruit that has the colour orange and comes off a tree and this has become known as the flavour orange”, it would feel very different. It is very important for each individual to ask the relevant questions of their Dr. and to listen to the answers of the Dr.- but not to give who they are to their Dr. We know that nobody gives a little miniature version of themselves to their Dr but energetically fear takes over as if the Dr can tell you whether you can live or die. We can tell you that you all will die but this doesn’t make us the grim reaper! Be mindful that when you ask your Dr about any information related to this subject or any subject relating to your health, that although he may have some answers to give you, sometimes those answers will be founded on science, sometimes founded on personal experience, sometimes founded on belief. Question! Have a sense of interest and presence in yourself. Do not give yourself away. For some of you this will be a task in itself. Asking the question seems to be so fearful, such a great stride, that some of you would rather not even ask. But the longings of the heart may push you. Begin with preparing yourself, practicing and having confidence in asking the question initially. Then work at this. If you get terrified, get to know your medical professional better as a human being. Ask them different questions; about their surroundings or their room so that you understand that this is a human being. Just because you need an answer (or so you feel) to a question of great magnitude doesn’t mean the answer comes back with great magnitude. Once you are able to dialogue more confidently with your medical practitioner and you have heard an answer, ask yourself, how you feel. There is no yes or no to this whether people who have had cancer and have made a full recovery should or should not have children. There is no yes or no. For you are no different whether you had cancer to anyone who never had it and there is no yes or no to them in their lives. This is the second part to this process. Ask yourself how you feel. You have added complications but the question itself remains the same: do we, or do I, wish to have a child biologically. If you say yes, then you are thinking and feeling as a human being, not a walking diagnosis of cancer. Anyone who chooses to want a child, rather than find out that they are having a child, prepares. This is the part that becomes more interesting. For you can prepare your body. How? Most of you will want to restore greater levels of physical health. We would advise this for every person wanting to have a child. We would advise this for the men too. You may want to cleanse the body; this is as much a rite of passage as it is a physical exercise in providing the right environment for pregnancy. It is a beautiful rite of passage. If you decide that you do wish to have a biological child and you have prepared your body according to what feels right for you, then you will need to prepare your mind. For your mind is likely to flip-flop between desire and fear. We suggest you tackle this head on. Talk to your Dr or physician, read a book or listen to the stories of others so you fully understand what you are getting into on a mental level. For you will war with yourself and this is not the best situation for anyone’s health, let alone the health of two, to flourish. Having said that, there are many anxious and unsure people who are currently pregnant and will deliver healthy babies. We give this information as part of the preparation and understanding of what needs to happen. Remember, that you are a human being. Some of you will want to bear children, some of you will want to bear children and be fearful; some of you won’t. You are a human being first; you have a complication with your health that is no different to any other health complication in so much as it is a consideration. You seek advice and you understand the impact of that advice on you, on your system. On your physical system and on your mind. You make your choice. It will be an individual choice. What is right for one of you will not be right for another. Do you wish to ask more questions on this? FIONA: Does having had cancer change your DNA in any way that would negatively affect a child? GUIDES: That is a bigger question than you realise. Affect the child’s growth and birth? FIONA: Yes. GUIDES: This would be on an individual level and it is a case of looking at the effects of treatments that have taken place, so you might want to ensure that everything is in working order. Once you know it is then prepare the body in the way that feels right for you and then make your choice. Again, this is no different from someone wishing to have a child. We would suggest and urge them to prepare the body but it is also a natural function to fall pregnant without preparation in which case the woman plays catch up. If you are able to conceive and carry a child to birth, you have been successful. It makes you no different from any other woman. There will be added fears but that also means there is potential for added wonder. Have we answered this Fiona? FIONA: Yes.

Thursday 19 January 2012

19: How nature can help us heal

FIONA: How can one use nature to heal oneself?

GUIDES: You are asking big questions today. We could write a book on this.

FIONA: Just a few pointers, please!

GUIDES: You have evolved from nature and you are nature yourself. You have forgotten that. Remember that. That is the biggest hurdle to stopping a healing response within nature from occurring, to think that you are separate.

The way most of you live it is not surprising that you feel this way. The landscape is, for most of you, for your minds, unconducive to remembering your heritage. Remember, that you are carbon and everything else is carbon. Do with it what you wish, make it, mould it, change it. You cannot alter yourself. This is the first step.

Remember that it is you. You are made of the same materials. You are made of them physically even broken down to the smallest particle. For many of you, who live in cities, it would be useful to even visit a city zoo, to look at the animals and understand that they have eyelashes, fingers (we are speaking of the mammals), eyeballs, and they have a sense of smell, taste, touch, hearing just like you. For others, such as you, Fiona, you may explore your ability to work with nature. You do this anyway. But doing it consciously and directly via a garden allows you to have confidence and takes you into the cycle of life. For some of you this is done as if it is another chore on the to-do list. Often, it is. But that too is a potential.

For those of you who don’t have gardens, open your window and breathe. Everything you need is within you. You are nature; that is the form you take. Nature creates your form and nature will return your form to itself, when you exit. So, everything is there- spread your wings. Should you or others wish to explore this further in the future, these are the main things that anyone in a city can do. Do you wish to take this further now?

FIONA: Do you have any more practical tips?

GUIDES: This is more difficult as the subject is so big. I know you would like a checklist. Let’s give you one of sorts.

1. Understand that nature is you and you are nature and you cannot escape it. You can only escape it when you come back to spirit, when you die. That is also your nature but it is not the nature of form. The world you live in, the bodies that you exist in, that is the natural world. That is your world. Everything you need is in that world. In terms of everything you need to thrive and everything you need to kill yourself. Death is an inevitable part of this world. It is the world of form. It cycles. That is first. It changes not if you are in a tenement block or the jungle. You are part of it.

2. Look for ways that you can connect with this aspect of yourself. This is a mental connection. Physically you are not always connected otherwise you would die e.g. your form needs food and water. You cannot escape this nature that you are in, unless you want to join us.

3. Open your window and breathe. These are all mental tips to reconnect the wiring of who you are, with where you are, and what you are doing. This will promote a healing response in the body; this is what you are looking for, Fiona. You can do this by opening the window and breathing, even in a polluted city. For the healing response is within, it is an understanding of the nature of your reality.

4. Develop a hobby or take visits to a more natural place, whatever that means for you. For some this will be a garden, for some this will be the hills or an ocean. It matters not where. There are different energies and responses for each of these. Simply making a journey is part of the pilgrimage and the ocean or the hill or tree can be the facilitator for your healing much as a person can. So make a pilgrimage, this includes the zoo. We know that for many this may seem distasteful but you will be connected if you can make a connection in your mind with the animals. If you can understand that they are you and you are them. You live on the same earth. You primarily eat the same diet unless you have altered your diet as a human. Look at the parts that you share: eyelashes, nails. Marvel at the majesty of nature and how it can take different forms. Look at your your form and at the forms of others walking around. They are all different. This is as it is to be- different expressions of form. Many of you fight that, but that is for another day.

Those are your practical steps. Perhaps best of all, Fiona, we could tie in some practical steps with the exercise we have already given. This is: sit for 5 minutes and ask the body to prepare itself using the forces of nature. You don’t need to worry about how it works or who is doing what, it will simply happen.